Sometimes, things happen which are out of our control. We long for the warmth of the sunshine to stay with us for some more time and the winter
come calling in; we wish that we never have to go through bad things in our life, but we all endure abuse, hurt and pain at some point of time or the other in our lives!Sometimes, things happen which are out of our control. If you go through abuse, neglect and maltreatment in childhood; abuse in the hands of the people who should never ever have abused you; that creates emotional stress and mental scare for life.Sometimes, things happen which are out of our control.
If you go through domestic violence, battered married life and abuse in the hands of some one whom you had trusted with your love and life; that creates physical and mental wounds.Sometimes things happen which are out of our control. If you are hurt and humiliated by some one, that stays with you for a long time. If you are in anger or in mental agony due to people and circumstances, it affects your body and mind. If you are in pain due to illness or accidents, it takes time to return to normalcy. Even then, the pain consciously or unconsciously lingers on in the mind.Such after effects of scars and wounds take a long time to heal; it impacts your psychological balance; such impact makes it difficult for you to trust others; it affects your faith in the humanity in general. It affects your emotional well being.
However, there are certain things that are well within our control; getting healed and taking baby steps on the path to recovery towards mental, physical and spiritual well being is definitely in our control. We just need to take some steps, rather many steps towards the sunshine.
However, not forgiving people is to carry them around in your mind day in and day out and replaying the horror and hell you had gone through time and again. Forgive and let go of them and let go of your agony. Forgive people!
2. Be Positive: Forgiveness is the most difficult thing to do and once it gets done, the path of positivity is easy enough. Being positive can not come from any outside forces; it should be developed from within.
“No teacher, preacher, parent, friend
Or wise man can decide
What’s right for you–just listen to
The voice that speaks inside”
- Shel Silverstein
By patience and practice on channelling your negative thoughts into the light bound positivity. Be alert for the negative voices in your mind. The moment you hear the negative voice, distract it with positive thinking.
3. Believe in Gratefulness: Nobody has to endure only the negative things in their life. Good things happen to all of us.
However, we notice the bad things often enough that the happening of the good things, happy moments and the micro seconds that elevates our minds and make us to feel good about us normally takes a back seat.
Start counting on the good things and be grateful for the blessings in your life.
There are scores of people who have not experienced the early morning glory and the warm sunshine that you have seen today; be grateful for that!
Be grateful for being alive today and plan for the betterment of your future. Pray to God. Pray to the Universe. Pray to the One about whom we know nothing about. Just Pray!
“If the only prayer you said was thank you that would be enough.”
- Meister Eckhart
4. Help Others: Show kindness to people and help others. When you give something, your hand opens up to receive something
from the one to whom you give! No one can give something to some one without receiving something back! It is the Universal Law of Kindness and Compassion; it is the fast track on healing the total you!
5. Be Healthy! A healthy body is a must for the spiritual and emotional well-being of a person. Get into Yoga and do breathing exercises. Get into the habit of morning walk. Do meditation. Enrol yourself in a gym. Eat balanced and nutritional food. Smile a bit and laugh a lot. Light up the world. Dance with the wind and listen to the music and cry with a melted heart. Be Healthy!
Q. I have attended various programs on spiritual upliftment, had watched plenty of inspirational videos and had attended a lot of discourse from religious leaders. However, I never feel at peace with myself. I am always anxious, feel at a loss, and feel hurt by others or guilty on my own for the things done or not done. How can I ever find peace of mind?
This is the question for which the whole world is searching for answers right from the beginning of time and no satisfactory or the final answer has been found so far.
Rather, the answer lies within and not without. Everything you had seen, heard or had gone through, finally comes down to your way of dealing with your problems. Nobody can deal with you except yourself. No body can hurt you unless you are ready to get hurt. No one can insult you unless you are ready to get insulted and no one can make you to smile, unless you are ready to smile on your own.
Resolve your entangled feelings of hurt, anger and abuse; you solve your issues. Resolve your equation with the others; you solve your mental hurt. Calm down and practice various ways and means of being positive as said above.
There is a reason for your being here on the Earth; you are special to God or to Universe or to Nature, whatever the name by which you may call the Higher Force!
Treat yourself with respect and dignity; trust yourself to do good for you and don’t allow others to enter into your mind or heart space to hurt you. Love yourself; you deserve more!
“Healing comes from taking responsibility: to realize that it is you – and no one else – that creates your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions.”
Get Healed and be on the path to emotional and spiritual well-being!